Anger Management by Crossing Barriers Ministry

I get angry sometimes and I honestly couldn’t tell you why or what set it off? I can tell you that it is generally something small that really doesn’t matter seriously.  So, tell me, what makes you get angry?  I could understand how dealing with the crappy hand that life dealt you could make you angry.  The better question is how do you channel your energy? Today however, we are going to look at reasons why we get angry and suggestions on how we can fix them. This isn’t a one size fit all so stay with us for the whole lesson.  Welcome to our one-day class called Anger Management.

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Before we can get into the anger management portion of our message, we must determine what happens to ignite anger and what happens when we are angry.

Typically, one of the primary emotions, like fear or sadness, can be found underneath the anger. Fear includes things like anxiety and worry, and sadness comes from the experience of loss, disappointment or discouragement.

When we get angry, the heart rate, arterial tension and testosterone production increases, cortisol (the stress hormone) decreases, and the left hemisphere of the brain becomes more stimulated. … There is an increase in heart rate, arterial tension and testosterone, but the cortisol level decreases

Angry people really do “see red” where others don’t, scientists have shown. And a preference for red over blue may even be an indicator of a more hostile personality. … Scientists said that the connection may be linked to our evolution from ancestral hunter-gatherer times to link red with danger and threats

Now we understand the general scientific stuff about anger, we must also realize that in most cases, anger does not really accomplish much. In fact, the Bible says that man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires. James 1:20

The key word in that last statement was “Most” or “Majority”. There are times when anger will accomplish something such as the story written by the Apostle Matthew about Jesus cleansing the Temple.  Matthew 21:12-13 or Mark 11:15-18 tells us that Jesus went into the temples and He started to overturn the tables in His Father’s house, it is not the common form of anger we usually see and experience.

Today we are going to look at the 10 things that we can learn from your anger. It is not likely that you have all ten, but you may have multiple of these and that may result in one type of anger or different types of anger.

BREAK TIME

Have you ever heard the saying, “You need to take a break”? I find something simple that I can’t figure out, walk away and try again later and usually you have better luck.

If you feel that you are going to explode, it might be an indication that you need a break. If this is a frequent occurrence, then you need to err on the side of caution and take a break.  Break here could be defined as a short amount of time to an unspecified amount of time depending on the reason for getting mad.

“Take a walk” is something I tell someone who is getting agitated by someone else. Matthew 11:28-30

OLD HABITS HARD TO DIE

They say that old habits are hard to die. They also say that we are what we learned from our parents.  A sample of that would be that I was punished by either the belt or take away my meals and as a young parent I use to use versions of these methods till I figured out what was happening.

So, we are losing our cool with someone because that was what we witnessed growing up and one can only assume that was the right thing to do. First thing is to realize that this bad habit can be broken. Once you realize this, you need to go to God.  You will have to admit you need help to break this old habit and God will release the chains. 1 John 1:9

ANTSY JUMPY QUEASY (Worried)

We all worry sometimes. You worry where you might sleep when its cold or where your next meal might come. I have had nights when I can’t go to sleep because I am worrying about something or other.

There are times when we are worried about something, our defense mechanism is anger when we don’t want to admit what we are worried about. It takes a lot of patience to get through this. You need to identify the items that cause you to worry the most and take them to the Lord.  Matthew 6:25-27

MIRROR, MIRROR ON THE WALL

I understand what it is like to be out on the streets where you have no place to call home. It doesn’t matter how well you keep yourself or what you have accomplished, where you are today or things like your physical appearance, achievements, or worldly success could lead to anger.

It not that any of those that causes anger but the fact that you work so hard to better yourself only to be knocked down or be rejected. This is like lighting a match to a piece of paper – anger becomes your defense.

What you are experiencing could be referred to as fleshly anger. A good place to start here is the Book of Galatians, Chapter 5. Galatians 5:16-17

CONTROL and KAOS                                                                                                           SELECTIVE TRUST                                                                                                       PROCRASTINATION                                                                                                                      PRICE SHOPPING                                                                                                                            LOST YOUR WAY  

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Bible Assignment

Books of Acts Chapters 16-20

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