I have always had this problem where I will try and have a conversation with someone and either I go blank, the words don’t come out right, or I say something stupid. This was pointed out to me recently at a viewing.We had attended a viewing for a friend’s member of the family that had passed away to show our support for the friend. As we started to leave, we bumped into someone from church and after saying hello, this person asked how I was doing and I responded, “I am still kicking”. It did not take long to have it pointed out to me that was totally distasteful and now that I think about it I agree.
So how many of you have fallen into that problem:
- First date
- Job Interview
- New Friends
- Random conversations with strangers
Today we are starting a new series titled “Conversations”. This is part one of three and we are specifically going to be looking at personal conversations.
Our bible scripture this week comes from Ephesians 4:29. The author Paul is writing an Epistle to the Romans. We are not to exaggerate but speak kindly and loving to one and another.
Conversation is defined as the informal exchange of ideas by spoken words. That would include any of the following but not limited to:
Tongue – The Weapon
As plain as it gets, your tongue is a weapon. It can either encourage or can destroy. Let’s us assume two scenarios if we may:
You have a friend that is going into the hospital for a serious procedure. It is serious but not life threatening, and you know that your friend is apprehensive anyways even though she has been reassured. If you were to contact that friend and offer to sit with and offer a prayer.
You have a friend that gotten taken advantage of after being warned by several persons. All you say to that friend “you were warned.
Scenario one was uplifting and a fit for the occasion and showing grace. Whereas scenario two would be considered corrupting talk. Scenario one would encourage the friendship and scenario two will destroy a friendship.
We will all make mistakes in our time of conversing. As James 3:2 says: “If anyone does not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect man, able to bridle the whole body as well.”
This verse leads us to simple things in life that could go wrong simply by following Ephesians 4:29:
- Divorces may be fewer
- Less children rebel against their parents
- Less churches splitting
How many times have you heard someone get angry and scream “Jesus Christ” or “God dam it”. Most people consider that the same as swearing and using the Lord’s name in vain. The Lord’s name is considered the name above all names and is Holy and awesome. Therefore, not only swearing as illustrated but saying anything that dishonors the lord is considered using his name in vain. Any version you commit of this is against the third commandment. Exodus 20:7
Liar – Liar
Is there anyone that can honestly say that they have never told a lie. Not even what we refer to a white lie? I know I have told a few lies in my time.
A lie is defined as an intentionally false statement. It is used with reference to a situation involving deception or founded on a mistaken impression. Some people tell lies because they just can’t help themselves known as habitual liars. Then you have those that lie to get themselves in or out of a situation. Finally, those that lie that give the wrong impression. Now please take note that sometimes a lie is truly warranted so long as there was no intentionally deceive or give a mistaken impression.
Leviticus 19:11 tells us that we must not lie. Exodus 20:16 where the ninth commandment resides tells us that we shall not bear false witness. Human nature is to be deceitful. It is the opinion that Christians who believe find more reasons to be honest than those who are not Christians. So how much does being truthful mean to you?
Have you ever had someone come up to you to clarify something that was said that was not what you say or taken out of context. I have had this happen and I was hurt and when I confronted the person it created a friction and ruin a friendship.
Gossip is defined as casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details that are not confirmed as being true. The bible translated the Hebrew word for Gossip to mean “one who reveals secrets, one who goes about as a talebearer or scandal-monger.” A gossiper is a person who has privileged information about people and proceeds to reveal that information to those who have no business knowing it.
They say gossip is classed in two ways. The first being intent whereas the gossip will build the teller up while making the victim look bad. The second class is gossipers who speak of the faults and failings of others or reveal potentially embarrassing or shameful details regarding the lives of others without their knowledge or approval. Even if they mean no harm, it is still gossip. The sin of gossip is shown seriously in Romans 1:29-32.
Gossip can cause a lot of damage as outlined in Proverbs 16:28. It is also illustrated in Proverbs 18:7-8. Once the damagee is done, it may never be repaired.
As you can see, our tongue can be a tool of destruction in conversation. However, a man can control his tongue by surrendering our natural desires to the lord as spoken in Proverbs 21:23.
We have all heard that it is alright to talk to ourselves. It’s when we answer our selves that we may have a problem. But if we do not have a conversation we would be awful lonely people. How about a conversation with God today?
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